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Talk about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Affairs can be loaded with problems, cause despair, and other troubles. In addition you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, money, age dissimilarity, religious education, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the purpose of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman date.

Why do men have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affairs. I think mostly though it is only the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several explanations I have run across.

Physically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the longing on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will overcome their doubts and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the mechanism?

Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not injure your family or anybody else? You would need to reduce the danger you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, very big truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your finances are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live together besides love and sex.

Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage whole.

Neglect, sorrowfully this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, usually the male is sexually neglecting his woman for a number of reasons. As a man I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us men of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.

Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have just grown apart, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The number one reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.